31 August 2012

On marriage:


"All the crap you read in magazines about honesty, sense of humor, communication, sensitivity, date nights, couples weekends, blah blah blah can be trumped by one word: loyalty. You and your spouse are a team of two. It is you against the world. No one else is allowed on the team, and no one else will ever understand the team's rules. This is okay. The team is not adversarial, the team does not tear its members down, the team does not sabotage the team's success. Teammates work constantly to help and better their teammates. Loyalty means you put the other person in your marriage first all the time, and you let them put you first. Loyalty means subverting your whims or desires of the moment to better meet your spouse's whims or desires, with the full understanding and expectation that they will be doing the same. This is the heart of everything, and it is a tricky balance. Sometimes it sways one way and sometimes the other. Sometimes he gets to be crazy, sometimes it's your turn. Sometimes she's in the spotlight, sometimes you. Ups and downs ultimately don't matter, because the team endures."


Quoted from Lydia Netzer's fantastic article, which seems to be wiser each and every time I read it. 
Photo of our wedding from One Love Photo.

3 comments:

  1. Love, love, love this picture!!!

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  2. I read this same article yesterday and loved it :)

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  3. What an amazing day this was! This photo brings a BIG smile to my face just thinking about what a truly beautiful marriage you both have cultivated together. xoxo! Miss you, Sarah!

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